smoke smoke smoke that cigarette

I guess I am a little slow sometimes. it dawned on me that some months or maybe a year or so ago, when she got so mad at me for sending chris out to hang with her, she wanted privacy. I do know, that soon after she came out of the hospital, she tried to smoke and we had a large confrontation about it. I basically told her, she was not in physical or mental shape to make that decision. she did stop and 6 months or so ago, I realized she was hiding cig and lighters and trying to smoke again. so I didn't tell her I knew cause I also knew she would smoke more if I knew. so I finally got tired of watching for safety sake and acting like I didn't know so I told her I knew and now she smokes too much and I can see a marked decline in her cognition and memory to the point of confusion and refusing to go to her lung doc who she loves. so I have told her this but she hasn't give them up. of course comes the guilt of smoking in my room and trying to keep it from her. she says it has nothing to do with it. I smoked only in my room and not in front of her or no one smoked in the house. I have an air filter and fan to keep as much out as I can and smoked outside alot. in the garage when she wasn't going out there a lot but stoped that too and did not smoke in her car or while she was in her car. so now I have to let her kill herself or take them and quit myself. neither is something I can do although my non-smoking siblings are not happy.the subtle complaints as to the semell so strong, I let her blame on me. oh well, watching her try to hide it breaks my heart. I don't do any different than I did so the smell will be less hard to deal with, but why? so tired of the hype,farce,advise, I guess I'm just tired. she is not real happy about me leaving so I think I will call my smoking friend and let her stay with her so I can go to corbin and get these gravelots sold and find some of the ones we've lost. and see chester before it's too late. really need to make some plans. or is any of it worth even stressing over. well lord help me. I will try to make reasonable goals.prayers for everyone